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I dunno, I think just because fanart doesn’t follow the book word for word doesn’t mean the art should be disregarded. People should be able to interpret HP however they want, and should be free to draw their own interpretations.

its not like i think its meritless? people can draw whatever they want but i dont have to like it

akellos said: what are ur headcanons for hp characters appearances? (like, main characters or ur favorite characters)

this is my golden trio!!! hermione is black (family from eritrea), and harry is mixed-race, white and desi (potters from south india). rons a white boy. i hc hermione a little chubby with a very Pear body type and harry and ron are both weedy twigs until like 5th year. clothes wise hermione wears blouses with rounded collars, patterned turtlenecks, and probably a lot of tourist tee-shirts that she and her parents buy while traveling. harry of course wears dudley hand-me-downs and probably ron hand-me-downs eventually, and ron wears hand-me-downs and a lot of stuff mrs weasley handmakes. 

(harry is probably saying “it was snape” while hermione tries not to shoot him down immediately, she is thinking about her perfect homework scores, ron is about to vehemently agree. it was TOTALLY snape. absolutely.)

god if i ever taught ANY class it would be a class on harry potter and it would Rule

and its such a lost cause bc people make fanart for hp constantly and most of it is wrong. rolls my car window up while gesturing like “im watching you”

im such a picky piece of crap about hp fanart. im pendantic about harry potter and ive earned this right and you cannot pry my angry fingers from these characters. im not wrong about this.


victims of the 90’s

The World is Not Your Fucking Oyster


  • Other people’s cultures do not exist for white people to seek their spiritual enlightenment
  • No one owes you an education, and initiation, or a history lesson simply because ‘you want’
  • No one has to include you in things because ‘you want’
  • No one has to hold their tongue, sweeten their words, or chop up sentences to make white people feel better about history- colonization, slavery, genocide, ect.
  • No one should be ‘grateful’ to you for your interest in said culture

"Should parents read their daughter's texts or monitor her online activity for bad language and inappropriate content?"







Earlier today, I served as the “young woman’s voice” in a panel of local experts at a Girl Scouts speaking event. One question for the panel was something to the effect of, "Should parents read their daughter’s texts or monitor her online activity for bad language and inappropriate content?"

I was surprised when the first panelist answered the question as if it were about cyberbullying. The adult audience nodded sagely as she spoke about the importance of protecting children online.

I reached for the microphone next. I said, “As far as reading your child’s texts or logging into their social media profiles, I would say 99.9% of the time, do not do that.”

Looks of total shock answered me. I actually saw heads jerk back in surprise. Even some of my fellow panelists blinked.

Everyone stared as I explained that going behind a child’s back in such a way severs the bond of trust with the parent. When I said, “This is the most effective way to ensure that your child never tells you anything,” it was like I’d delivered a revelation.

It’s easy to talk about the disconnect between the old and the young, but I don’t think I’d ever been so slapped in the face by the reality of it. It was clear that for most of the parents I spoke to, the idea of such actions as a violation had never occurred to them at all.

It alarms me how quickly adults forget that children are people.

Apparently people are rediscovering this post somehow and I think that’s pretty cool! Having experienced similar violations of trust in my youth, this is an important issue to me, so I want to add my personal story:

Around age 13, I tried to express to my mother that I thought I might have clinical depression, and she snapped at me “not to joke about things like that.” I stopped telling my mother when I felt depressed.

Around age 15, I caught my mother reading my diary. She confessed that any time she saw me write in my diary, she would sneak into my room and read it, because I only wrote when I was upset. I stopped keeping a diary.

Around age 18, I had an emotional breakdown while on vacation because I didn’t want to go to college. I ended up seeing a therapist for - surprise surprise - depression.

Around age 21, I spoke on this panel with my mother in the audience, and afterwards I mentioned the diary incident to her with respect to this particular Q&A. Her eyes welled up, and she said, “You know I read those because I was worried you were depressed and going to hurt yourself, right?”

TL;DR: When you invade your child’s privacy, you communicate three things:

  1. You do not respect their rights as an individual.
  2. You do not trust them to navigate problems or seek help on their own.
  3. You probably haven’t been listening to them.

Information about almost every issue that you think you have to snoop for can probably be obtained by communicating with and listening to your child.

Part of me is really excited to see that the original post got 200 notes because holy crap 200 notes, and part of me is really saddened that something so negative has resonated with so many people.

"I tried to express to my mother that I thought I might have clinical depression, and she snapped at me "

“’You know I read those because I was worried you were depressed and going to hurt yourself, right?’”

I found these quotes particularly interesting. OP’s mother refused to listen when she tried to talk about her depression, but snooped through her things to see if she was depressed.

It’s amazing to me that parents need to be told something that I GUARANTEE they experienced themselves. This is something that predates text messaging. You search your child’s room for drugs, and they will find a better hiding place for anything they may be worried about you finding - even if it’s as innocuous as candy. You try to snoop on their phone conversations with their boyfriend, and they will 1) Find a different way to communicate with him, and 2) Never communicate with YOU about their boyfriend.

My parents doing this shit to me didn’t make me stop doing it and didn’t make me respect them any more. All it did was make me better at sneaking around.